One powerful means to maintain a relationship of love is to establish smooth communication, honest communication. The problem is, why people are afraid of telling the truth?
People lie because people feel uncomfortable when telling the truth. If you lie, said Dr. Jackie Black in his book, Meeting Your Match: Cracking The Code to Successful Relationship, men will become as firmly as ever. If you face the question directly, the male will dodge or answer "no idea". To find out whether your partner is lying or not, you do not need a polygraph machine. You just simply pay attention to his movements.
Touching the nose
One of the most visible sign when people are lying is often touching his nose. Itching? Probably yes. But it may also not given the context of serious discussion. Even touching your nose can not be said explicitly and definitely that it is the language of lies, movement unconsciously touch your nose it could be a direct indication that people are not prepared to say what it is. At this point you can learn from the experience and habits of people who say is not true and honest. At that time, unconsciously and unintentionally, they would touch his nose.
Diction
People who do not usually lie directly answer your question. You said it, he would answer it. It's simple. But note the change in style of speech. If he lied, speaking style will change. What was once simple is now complicated changes. Complex. Sentence becomes very long, rambling, often do not touch the contents and did not answer the question. It could be forced diksinya complicated and impressed "wow", and contains intellectual. Though often tangled logic. Not connect. Between one thing and other things not related to each other. There is a kind of leap is broken. Although these points could not dipersiskan as a sign that the person must be lying, flair still needed to hold the tail of a logic error (thinking or speaking).
Different behavior than usual
Another sign that you can hold the person who was telling the truth is a different behavior. Other than normal. You must remember that the behavior or action relating to his mind. If he does not want you to know what happened exactly, the movement must be supported. There is some movement or behavior that you can consider, among other things, rubbing the neck or eyes, cover your mouth when talking, scratching his head or holding the ear, and move the neck but not in accordance with the sentence itself. Rubbing the eye, for example. In psychology, the movement could be a representation of his refusal, the shape shifting emotions. Thus was closed the mouth. Especially after the talk, he quickly closed his mouth and a little shocked. That's a clear sign. Or also scratching his head-scratching. Let your attention well behaved. If he's telling the truth and right, he did not need scratching his head. Scratching the head has a close relationship with self-protection mechanism. Such action to divert attention and conversation of others. Likewise, the movement of the neck rub. The movement can be a form of shifting emotions.
Pause and speech errors
This occurs due to unpreparedness lie. People who are not prepared to lie to gelagapan, stuttering or stammering in anticipation of the statement or confirmation, even a wrong answer or speak. A too long pause in the talks could be an indicator. That means that people should think long and how to say something. Although these elements can not be used as a benchmark for sure, these elements still need to be considered in efforts to uncover the dialogue or truth. For that, you still must know the basic behavior of the man, studying the speech patterns, body language and facial expressions. Pay attention to any changes. Therefore, as much as possible to avoid communication via SMS, telephone or email. Without face to face, you'll be hard to observe the changes that occur. That means you will also be difficult to know whether he lied or not.
Contrary to the
Someone who likes to say most likely not honestly hated the name details or details. People that prefer to talk in general terms. Why? Because the things that detail will make it hard to say he meant. Told in detail together with the dismantling his lies. And it is usually avoided. Even if he tries to play with things that are detailed, there is no connect. Therefore, if you want to know whether he lied or not, invite him to play with little things and details. If he has difficulties and can not trace a clear, chances are he's lying to you. Especially if he gets angry when you Questioning these things. Or he's away. That's a clear indicator.
Rona's face
If you talk to someone, pay attention to her color. If it does not change her color as before, you can still believe in him. But when you flicked something and the color of his face suddenly changed, though he mangatakan "no", he was hiding something. Or she was shocked and then afraid that you know the meaning. If it is so, you will easily lure him to tell the truth. Look at his eyes and noticed her color. Remember, a great liar was certainly not capable of controlling the spontaneous motion of the muscles of the upper face. Upper facial muscles that react very quickly according to the emotion.
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